Over the course of the last year or so, and even further back three years, my life of meetings, corporate events, Blackberry messages and travel, has slowly been replaced with laundry, dishes, grocery shopping and full time child-duty.
Where I would be up at 6 to get my hair done and slip on heels and dress pants, I know roll out of bed when my kids get up to find the least crumbled and wrinkled t-shirt, sports bra and yoga pants tossed from the night before. My hair is rarely brushed but I always have deodorant on and change my undies every day! My computer/briefcase is replaced with a purse that can easily carry snacks, water bottles and kids’ toys. While I don’t have conference calls to attend to or bickering employees to referee, I have to often mediate my kids’ arguments and talk in a way that deescalates the situation. I may not be the voice of reason for a team of 13 and an employee base of 1500, but I am the voice of leadership and direction for my kids and those women I am helping along the way through their health journeys.
What does any of this have to do with anything, especially weight loss? Well, every day we are faced with decisions; some minor, some major; some completely unconscious as that’s just was we do as adults who lead ‘normal’ every-day lives. As I unloaded the dishwasher this morning, knowing that I have at least a dozen ‘tasks’ to complete before I get my girl from school, I marveled at how incredibly different my life is… right now. And it really did come down to what was decided at a time in my life that I needed a change.
“Failure will never overtake me if my determination to succeed is strong enough.” – Og Mandino
I have had the great privilege and opportunity to work with many of you, both from the sidelines and one on one. You have all taught that one paramount factor remain – everything comes down to a choice. And that choice is putting you before everyone else. Full. Stop. I struggled with this notion ONLY after I starting my journey three years ago. It was always everyone else; never me. This is what brought me to ill-health, almost 300 lbs, crippling arthritis and a life that needed to change.
I am now at a present state that I know my choices will always have outcomes. Workout = feel good. Eat well = feel great. Positive self-talk = sustained motivation. Healthy relationships = positive energy. With each of these choices, I am faced with saying NO to something. A choice always has an opposition. And for me, it’s knowing what the opposing side has to offer that helps me move towards the better choice.
What’s the point?
The point may be (I don’t know) that choosing you is okay. I am not about to pretend I have all the answers or even the ability to grant your permission to do anything in your own life; but for me, I now know it’s okay to say no to the laundry and yes to my workout. Saying no to the ice cream and yes to ‘merely’ spending quality time with my family. Feeling like I don’t need to justify anything I am doing to anyone else.
Are you allowing your tasks to get in the way of your goals?
All I can say is that you have a myriad of choices every day of your life. While you may not be ready to say no to your chosen career (as I did) in exchange for a busy yet fulfilling life, you do have the choice of what you eat, how you move, who you love, who you allow in your life and most of all, how you offer yourself guidance and support.
I may be on this road for the rest of my life, but I am now at a comfortable place to know I can choose happiness over heartache and health over not.
What are you choosing today?